In the Flow with Healing Waters

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“What’s in your bucket?”

Is it possible that you have people all around you but feel lonely?

Is it possible that you have people around you, but they are not filling your bucket?

Is it possible that you want people to be the thing that fills your bucket, and you feel depleted?

Are you giving everywhere, home, work, church, school, community and you are empty?

When you go outside of yourself to fill up your personal love bucket it can leave you disappointed, lonely, frustrated and empty.


People and things don’t fix your personal loneliness, they are the distraction that makes us think we are filling up our love bucket.  

Does it seem odd that you go out to see if someone will love you, to fill you up, when you are the only one that knows what your needs, wants and desires are?

You can verbalize these things, but, in all honesty, your true needs, wants and desires often get lost in translation.

Nobody can fulfill all of your needs. They can do things that you appreciate and enjoy but you ultimately decide if you like it, or if you don’t, if you are angry, sad, frustrated, happy, loved or loving. No one does this for you. You are the one that decides for yourself how you feel.

Truly, it needs to come from the inside of you, not outside of you. Loving self-first creates the peace, joy and tranquility to share it with others. When you are experiencing emotions opposite of these, you share those emotions with others.

If you are still and you notice where the emptiness is, it isn’t on the outside of you, it resides on the inside of you. 

Beginning to identify that it is not another’s job or responsibility to fill your love bucket is the beginning of moving into fulfillment and happiness. It is impossible to keep someone happy, joyful and content. 

Have you ever completed a project to find yourself satisfied and fulfilled? 

Who did that work and who is feeling it?

Why do you suppose that happened?

Is it possible that you did something for yourself, that you dug deep within yourself to find satisfaction, pride, empowerment from inside of you rather than looking for approval on the outside of you? 

Did this something bring joy and peace to your existence, and began to replenish and fill up your love bucket?

Welcome to this preciousness, this connection with self-first. Do you remember the blog on self-kind vs selfish?  Taking the time to take care of your basic needs and topping it off with filling up with things that open your heart to loving self and then sharing that love with others. 

It is a beautiful thing to feel and experience. 

Find out what makes you complete. What fills your bucket?

A walk in the park? A canoe or kayak around the lake? Watching birds? Filling your soul’s purpose?

What will you do for yourself today to add to your personal love bucket?

Here is the bonus…when you are full, you benefit and that benefits others.

Be in the Flow



Denise is the co-owner, founder of Healing Waters Health Center and AcuEnergetics® Senior Practioner. She is also a AcuEnergetics® level 1 teacher, and Co-Creator of The Perfect Triangle. Denise’s intrigue with and curiosity about energy flowing through the body began at a young age. She loves educating people on how energy in the body affects our well-being. With more than 30 years of experience, she has a well-rounded approach to assisting people who are interested in alternative ways to improve their health and happiness.