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New You….New Year

It’s a New Year! Have you thought about what you’d like to do differently this year or what you are pleased with and you’d like to keep as is? Many of us make resolutions and we start off strong and “committed,” only to falter after a few weeks and then we give up. 

We’ve all been successful in something. In order to be successful, you must be committed. Have you ever thought about your level of commitment to the people and things you want to change in your life? Everything we choose is a decision and requires a level of commitment. As you read below, be mindful of what you would like to change and how you can make the necessary steps to be 


Below are the 5 levels of commitment. They are:

Level 1 “I DON’T CARE” When we say, I don’t care, do you really mean it? Oftentimes, that is a quick response to a question when in fact, we really do care or have an opinion. For example:

Friend: Where should we go for lunch?

You: I don’t care. 

Friend: Let’s go to Panera.

You: I just ate there last week. Can we go somewhere else? 

This scenario, or something similar, has probably happened to you. If you really look at the 3 words, I don’t care, you are saying, I don’t have an opinion. If you do have an opinion or you do care about where you go, voice it and strive for clear communication. In other words, say what you mean and mean what you say. Caring about what you say, how you feel, and how you want to be is the first step to being committed.

Level 2 “WISHING, WANTING, HOPING” I wish…., I want…., I hope….. 

Living in this pattern is holding you back from moving forward. If you’re constantly wishing, wanting and hoping for something to change, it never will until you get committed to reach the goal(s) you’re striving for. This level is for the daydreamer and when you put your dreams into action, you will be on the way to reaching your goal(s). 

Level 3 “I’M TRYING” You may be surprised by how often we say I’m trying. Trying is great if you’re tasting a new food, playing a new sport and a good way to see if whatever you’re doing is something you desire to do. I’m trying can be a spot where many people can get stuck. It’s a contemplative level that is an important step to whatever you’d like to change to be 100% committed. When we say I’m trying, and we aren’t committed to change, it’s like giving ourselves a hall pass. This is where you GET to decide if you want to change and move out of the trying mode. If that change is hard, you may decide to slide back into “I don’t care” or “wishing, wanting and hoping” OR you can decide to be 100% committed to the change. It’s your decision.

Level 4 “I’M COMMITTED….UNLESS” I think of this level as “you’re oh so close” but you could easily revert to one of the other levels. You know what you want, you tell yourself that you’re committed to something, things are going well, and then…something happens that derails you. 

This is normal and happens often. You are then faced with a decision that YOU get to decide. Am I going to get back on the tracks and get committed again to reach my ultimate goal or am I going to stay derailed? 

Level 5 “I’M COMMITTED – WHATEVER IT TAKES” This level is empowering! Being committed – WHATEVER IT TAKES shows that you are truly determined to be successful in whatever you are striving for. You are very focused and you will find a way through any obstacles and challenges you may come across. As you have probably already realized, along with the effort it takes to do “whatever it takes” to be committed, you must have the attitude to push forward to achieve and succeed in your goal(s). 

I don’t care and wishing, wanting and hoping are sabotaging yourself. 

I’m trying and I’m committed….unless are maintenance and where most of us live. 

I’m committed – whatever it takes is showing yourself that you 

have the attitude to be unstoppable, courageous, dedicated, powerful and brave to be 100% committed.   

The truth of the matter is that we all falter and move around these levels of commitment all day, every day. Pick one thing that you will commit to whatever it takes…no excuses. Be self kind along the way and remember that you GET to decide your attitude, your willingness to change and your level of commitment. 

In the Flow