In the Flow with Healing Waters
Finding the way to peace
“There is no way to peace. Peace is the Way.” -Thich Nhat Hahn
At the beginning of our I AM retreats, we ask each student what they are looking for that day…. They often say “peace”.
I think a lot of us are looking for this state of being. Sometimes we feel we are more peaceful when things are going well in life. When people are happy around us, when we are happy in our careers, when the kids are doing well, when we feel safe, or when our health is good, we have a tendency to “feel peaceful.”
However, things can change pretty fast…a new boss enters your job who can throw things for you, your child may have something happen that rocks their world, your spouse loses their job, you or someone you love gets sick. So then what happens to that peaceful feeling? It feels like it’s gone.
All those things that we think are creating peace are really happening on the outside of us. It definitely feels as though things are smoother when our outside world is going well, but did you truly ever have peace? True peace happens on the inside not outside.
I referenced a book title to a client this week, “Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness, by Gretchen Rubin.
The gist of that book was that if you get your environment organized you will feel better inside. Which can be true to a lot of us. Ever have to clean your house before you sit down and do your work? Sometimes people HAVE to have a clean house before beginning any projects.
As I discussed the title and summary of this book, I asked my client, “What if you had inner calm no matter what your environment looked like or how the people around you were feeling?”
Perhaps you are wondering how you can find peace and calm in the midst of going through something terrible? I am saying you find peace just being with the feelings you have and accept them. Being peaceful is accepting what is. Accepting what you are feeling, accepting what people are doing around you, accepting your illness, accepting your past, accepting your family, accepting what is happening, accepting who you are and where you are in life.
Meditation is a great tool to help you accept WHAT IS. Why? Because meditation helps you stay in the present. It keeps you from drifting into the past (which you cannot change) and it helps you from diving into the future (which may cause anxiety). Meditation helps diffuse reactions to situations and helps decrease the tension in your mind and body.
Meditation helps you not FIND your inner peace, but FEEL your inner peace. The inner peace of being. It’s really nothing to find, it is just feeling and accepting. When you are accepting in your work, relationships, feelings and thoughts, you will notice the feeling of peacefulness.
Acceptance and peace in the flow,