In the Flow with Healing Waters
Many of us don’t like to be vulnerable. Many times that word feels like we are opening up to being hurt or to someone hurting us and we tell ourselves…that happened one too many times and we won’t be doing that anymore!.
It’s interesting to me as our minds hook onto certain words which produce a specific reaction. The words themselves can cause anger, hurt, or sadness.
In meditation we talk about being open and closed as we do heart opening meditation practices. Opening the heart is healthy, it’s where we find love and peace. Being open is how we connect with others. It’s also being real and vulnerable with others.
During one of my meditation classes, when the word vulnerable was mentioned, one of the students said she closed when she heard that word. She became irritated and then simply stated, “I don’t like that word.”
I took this as an opportunity to teach her how she reacted to just a word. It’s just a word. I said, “Use another word, but pay attention to how you reacted to the word vulnerable.” What did that mean to her? I didn’t put her on the spot, but encouraged her to sit with what that means and if she can get clarity on what situation/person comes up.
The take away is vulnerable is another word for being open. It doesn’t mean you are destined to being hurt.
“Vulnerability is a state of emotional exposure that comes with a certain degree of uncertainty. It involves a person’s willingness to accept the emotional risk that comes from being open and willing to love and be loved”
Isn’t that what we are all looking for? To be open and willing to love and be loved? When we close our hearts because we are hurt, we are keeping ourselves from loving and being loved. We “think” we are helping ourselves, but totally hurting ourselves. I use the word “think” because when we get hurt, our mind likes to take over. We can’t love from our minds. We love from our hearts. We can’t love as great or as deep if we can’t open up our hearts.
So how do you open your heart?
Sit, close your eyes, and think of something/someone/a place that makes you happy. Let that thought make you smile.
A feeling will happen in your heart.
Feel that feeling. Notice that feeling.
When you lose that feeling, do it again. Think of that happy thought, smile, and feel again in your heart.
It’s as simple as that.
If you want more guidance in this practice, take the meditation class in April. Learning to do this practice will change your life.
In the love flow,