In the Flow with Healing Waters
We have all seen someone else spin, it is easy to see and to identify.
Witnessing the anger, loud, fast talking, yelling, crying and having a meltdown.
What is a spin? Everyone spins and everyone has felt a spin. We don’t typically call it that or think about it. A “Spin” is felt in your mind/heart/gut/body and it lets you know things are not OK. It’s like our personal canaries in the coal mine- when we are sensing something is off.
Spinning can feel out of control, feel lost, confused, overwhelmed, anxious, fear, angry, frustrated, and we don’t like that feeling. We want to push it away and get rid of it. We want it to STOP!
When we are out of balance we “spin” causing tension on the inside to build.
A spin has three parts or stages, a beginning, middle and an ending.
- Beginning is when you can feel it start.
- Middle is when the spin peaks.
- Ending is when the energy of the spin starts to decrease.
- Tension begins to start in the body at this stage.
Identifying the beginning of the spin is crucial!
Considering how it feels at the beginning of the spin is important. If you can start to understand how it feels from the start, you can slow down or change the duration of the spin.
- Tension is at its peak during the middle and once it has made it this far it can be difficult to think clearly. It is necessary to understand that you can choose to spin or not to spin at any time, but particularly during this time during the intensity of the spin, you want to remember that you are the one who is choosing to spin. When you are in the middle of the spin, notice how it feels, become aware, feel it, and choose if spinning is really what you want to do in that moment. Note: It is common to not want to stop the spin during this stage for a period of time until it is too much and we cannot sustain the intensity for much longer.
- Tension starts to release at the end of your spin.- The wind gets taken out of the sail here and you begin to feel relief from the intensity of the tension. You begin to have more clarity in thinking, less reactivity and more stillness.
Most often a spin generates in the mind, the feeling of going crazy, overwhelm starts a fight, flight, fright, freeze response. Emotions could be ramped up and next there will be tension in the body. When our emotions get out of balance we can spin- again we feel it in our physical body, causing overwhelmed, frustration and the fight, flight, fright, freeze response.
It doesn’t feel great, it doesn’t even feel good, but it happens anyway.
It can be pretty easy to get sucked into someone’s spin and blame them for our spin. Feel the frustration, anger, begin to yell, joining in the meltdown.
Is it possible to stop the spinning?
Now that you know how you spin, this is WHY you spin.
You spin because you hold on to emotions for a while and not wanting to let them go, wanting to be right, or get back at someone for treating us wrong/bad. It is more than likely a pattern that has developed from previous situations that are similar to the one happening at the moment. Putting your attention on the reason for the spin creates the spin to get bigger, faster, and more intense and not even remembering or knowing why it started or what to do about it.
At the beginning of your next spin:
- Feel it then – Pause
- Feel your breath
- Put your attention on joy, love, gratitude (it is not possible to be open to these emotions and spin at the same time)
- Try it out and see how it goes.
Excerpt from “The Perfect Triangle©” Webinar coming soon….
-Enjoy your flow
Written by Denise Gunderson