In the Flow with Healing Waters
Open or Closed?
Open and closed is self-explanatory, you know the difference between an open or closed door or window, right?
Did you know that you personally open and close? You are doing it all the time, actually, you are either open or you are closed right now!
Notice you cannot be open and closed at the same time, just like the door or the window is either open or closed the same is true with you. In fact, even when you are on the way to being open or closed, you are either one or the other.
When you are in an open state of being, your life is good, you are happy, you are free and usually feeling love.
When closed you may feel hurt, frustrated, angry, scared, sad, worried and in pain.
Are you aware that you have a choice at every moment in your life to be open or to be closed?
It is up to you to decide to be open or closed. I often hear that he/she makes me so angry. If you truly investigate this, others don’t make you open or closed, happy or angry, it is really you that gets to choose which way you want to be or where you are heading.
Other people don’t make you happy, sad, angry, or in love. They may do or say things that you perceive as nice or unkind.
However, in every situation, it is how you respond that matters. Are you open or are you closed? In other words, are you happy, curious, or angry and scared?
Interesting isn’t it, that we want to give somebody our power because they made us feel a certain way. In reality, we are doing it to ourselves and blaming them.
Always remember if you are feeling it, it is yours, others are feeling their own emotions and those emotions belong to them. (and really does not have anything to do with you and HOW you are)
There are certain things in life that we need to do on our own, like breath, eat, see, walk, etc, and this is true with being open and closed.
Why do you close? There are a number of reasons, but I can think of two reasons off the top of my head that I think are common and we do most often. The first is because we want to be right, the other is we have been hurt and we want to push that emotional pain away.
The next time you are experiencing these feelings, remember you get to decide will you close or will you remain open? If you close, how long will you remain closed? If you remain open, feel how that feels different than the feeling of closed. Notice if the outcome is different from what usually happens when you have stayed closed.
Here is a tip to help you when you notice you are closing.
- Be still, for a few seconds.
- Feel your breath – ahhhhh.
- In this moment, notice HOW you are.
- If you are not open, repeat the first 4 steps
This changes the course of your closing cycle, and at that ahhhhh moment it can shift back to open.
What will you choose the next time you feel the closing cycle start? Will you stay in your old pattern and close? Or will you feel the closing as it begins, will you move toward it, or stop, be still, breathe, and change the course into a new way of being?
You may notice that open feels much better, however, sometimes it is hard to give up the old pattern and we hang on just a little longer.
Remember, it is your choice.
-Stay in the flow
Written by Denise Gunderson