In the Flow with Healing Waters

Chalk drawing - Do it now

If not now, when?

This is the week of Thanksgiving! My personal favorite holiday! The topic of this blog and the timing may seem off, but as you read along, think about who you are thankful for and how you can let them know that they matter to you and how much you appreciate them, before the chance is gone. 

Has this ever happened to you? Someone dear to you passes away. Upon hearing about their death, you think back to the last time you had contact with them. You remember saying, “Let’s get together soon,” but you didn’t actually make a date and now the opportunity is gone. 

Maybe you are thinking about a particular person often, but it’s been a long time since you’ve talked and you know when you do connect, it won’t be a quick conversation, so you put it off. Then the unimaginable happens, and in a blink of an eye, they are gone and you miss an opportunity to connect with them. 

Did you have a disagreement or misunderstanding with someone you care about which resulted in not talking with each other? Do you miss that relationship? What if you don’t get a chance to resolve the issue before they are no longer here? Will you have regrets? 

Perhaps you feel the need to apologize to someone but you don’t have a desire to rekindle the relationship or they don’t want a relationship with you.  You just want that person to know that you’re sorry for what you’ve done. I always prefer face to face apologies, but if that isn’t possible, maybe you choose to write a letter or send an email. There may not be recognition of an apology from the other person, but you did your part. 

I am nudged to write this blog because of the unexpected death of a dear friend’s daughter and the untimely death of my niece’s friend. Two young people, one 40 and the other 41, were taken without warning. It can happen at any age to anyone. It leaves others wondering why and wanting one more moment with them to say what you’d like to say. 

Those that get told to go home and get their things in order because of a terminal illness have the chance to make amends, knowing their mortality. They are getting a second chance to apologize and let someone know what they mean to them or to just have a loving and tender moment. The fact is, we should all be living each day as if it’s our last so we don’t have those moments of regret. 

Why do we procrastinate in telling others how much they mean to us? Why do we make it difficult to say we’re sorry when we argue with someone? Letting go of having to be right can go a long way. 

This isn’t about guilt, it’s about valuing the time you have with the ones you care about. It’s about telling people what they mean to you and how much you care for them RIGHT NOW, while you have the chance. It’s living “in the moment” instead of ”I’ll do that later.” Send a note, a text, a letter, be in person to let the people you care about what they mean to you. Make apologies if you need to. You may not get a second chance to say what you’d like to say. 

Say it now in the flow,