In the Flow with Healing Waters
I will be happy when…
I will be happy when…..
I’ll be happy when I get that new job
I’ll be happy when we find that new house
I’ll be happy when I get into that college
I’ll be happy when I finally get on vacation
I’ll be happy when I finally have this baby
I’ll be happy when I finally retire
You may find yourself saying this in your life. If I get or do this (thing) I will be satisfied and my life will be better.
The problem with this statement is that you are living your life in the future instead of the present. It’s interesting when we finally get that new job, we may be happier for a short time, but sometimes we can still be unsettled and look for another new job.
Sometimes we get that new house, but still have the same problems show up. I remember one of my friends told me when she finally got her new house built, she would finally be happy and less stressed. I asked her once it was completed, “Are you less stressed and happier?” She said, “No, the same issues were there, they are just in a different place.”
Why do we expect these amazing changes and expectations to make us happier? Why are we just not happy where we are now? It doesn’t mean we can’t strive or look forward to goals. But why don’t we enjoy the process more?
I remember a few years back when I was going through a rough patch with my life, frustrated where I was, Denise said to me “You have made your life the way you wanted it to be.” I looked at her and said, “This is not what I wanted.” But her statement made me start questioning what she meant . I soon started to see that I did set this up in my life looking for some sort of outcome.
At that time, I wanted something to shift so I could get out of this rough patch. I was wanting something to change on the outside of me to make me happier on the inside. I was wanting my husband to change, my kids to change, my job to change…..What I was missing was myself. When I stopped and looked at what I was doing to create happiness in myself, I quickly realized I was not doing much to create happiness in me.
When we look inside of ourselves, we then can fill ourselves up with happiness and enjoy life in the present.
We can’t find that true happiness and peacefulness on the outside of ourselves. Sure, people around us help to create happy feelings, and doing fun things create happy times and memories. But being in the present moment and enjoying this process we call life, is the key.
Be grateful for the process of finding a job, building a house, writing essays for college, enjoying your growing belly during pregnancy, enjoying the relationships or purpose you have at your job before you retire. These moments are where all the magic happens.
So go out today and be present! Enjoy every moment of the day, even if you are in a tough place. Be grateful for the learning experience you are getting out of it. Because when you stay in the present versus just wishing for this and that, you will not miss out on your life.
-Stay in the Flow
Written by Susan Schultz, AcuEnergetics® practitioner and teacher, Stillwater, MN