In the Flow with Healing Waters
How Serious are You?
Have you ever noticed how others can be SO serious about something that is SO important to them but that same thing to you is – UH, no big deal!
What makes something so important to one but not the other?
Why does he/she get all wound up about something so trivial to you, and to them it is something, BUT your thing is a really big deal and to them it is nothing?
It comes down to opinion, judgment, perception, and attitude.
We all have these and often we don’t even know it is something we are reacting to.
Is it an issue or isn’t it?
No, it really isn’t an issue, UNLESS you become frustrated, angry, or wound up.
A few weeks ago, I heard about something that seemed ridiculous. You may have heard about it too. Teachers and students being coached on how to treat a child who identifies as an animal (furries) at school.
My first response, most children have barked like a dog, or meowed like a cat and it isn’t a big deal. (not an issue)
UNTIL, when this person said, “No, this is a real thing and schools are having to deal with it.”
Well, I had a mild response, it started with a thought of “this is ridiculous,” then it went into an opinion and a judgment. I could feel myself getting frustrated (an issue started) we laughed about how ridiculous this was and I thought I had let it go and forgotten about it.
Last week when one of my adult children was listening to a video online of a child acting like an animal, (this might be important to note here, I wasn’t even in the same room as her) I could feel my old response of frustration come back. I remembered the thought I had earlier, and with intensity I started sharing my opinion of this ridiculous thing I had heard earlier. (ISSUE!!)
My daughter’s response was interesting.
She said “Wow, mom you are really angry about this.”
Her statement stopped me in my tracks.
Wow, look how worked up I am getting over something that doesn’t really affect me AT ALL! Why did I care?
I realized I was reacting and responding solely from my opinion, judgment, attitude, and perception. As she asked me more questions, I realized I didn’t even know if this was a real thing, it was just something I HEARD and I reacted to it. I needed more information.
It isn’t important what I was reacting to, what is important is; HOW I reacted.
This is just one example of how quickly I can get serious, wound up, frustrated or angry.
It might not seem like a big deal until you dig a bit deeper and begin to understand wellbeing starts with this awareness.
It is a continuous awareness on my part of HOW I AM.
Can you identify times in your life that you reacted similarly to me?
If you are curious about this and want to know more about how YOU are.
Join Susan and me as we explore and answers to some of questions,
through the Perfect Triangle™ program.
Enjoy Your Flow,
Denise
