In the Flow with Healing Waters

Each of us has had lessons that have brought us to this point in our lives.

For me, a vivid conscious lesson was when I was 19 years old, at that time in my life I was a people pleaser. I was trying to make someone happy which seemed like an impossible task.  I can still remember the details of my conscious lesson. I was driving when this feeling came over me to start taking care of myself first. This meant not sacrificing myself by trying to do the impossible in MAKING SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY.
The lesson I learned was I can’t make anyone happy. Either they choose happiness or not. It is my choice to have happiness for myself or not, and nobody is going to create or take that from me. This was very significant moment and I try to live this throughout my life.

On a subconscious level, the opposite of this also exists in me. While I was a people pleaser and at a young age, my mom was a yeller. At least that was my young self’s perception. Of course, back then I didn’t analyze this, but I could feel it.  Tension would build until my mother would spin and start yelling.  Her yelling created action and got things done. I really don’t know what her perception was but as a young person, I didn’t like the feeling of being caught in this spin.

This created a subconscious lesson for me, I tried to be a good girl, follow directions, not make any waves and to try and avoid her yelling at all costs.  I didn’t think about my response, I just started to do things that I hoped would keep Mom happy. If yelling did occur, I would try and smooth it out and make it right as fast as I could. You see I got caught up in her pattern.

This is one of the things that I am now consciously working on. I am choosing to own my response, and work through it rather than have this subconscious spin own me. (I still don’t like the feeling of a spin, mine, or someone else’s)

Every day I get an opportunity to look at the things that make me spin. Like when someone gets upset. I get to choose to spin with them or stay stable, open, and stay curious about how this will resolve. I now understand that they will not stay upset forever and more than likely, it had nothing to do with me. I may have triggered a subconscious event for them. If there is something that I have done to help create their spin I can own it. By learning from it I can create a conscious decision for the best outcome rather than continue to react in my old pattern.  I am a work in progress.  I can usually identify the feeling right away and that is my cue to stop, breathe, and hear what the other person is saying. I can then ask questions that can help us both not play in our subconscious patterns.

It might be worth mentioning here, this is part of being human. All of us spin as it is a natural phenomenon that we all get caught up in.

My mom didn’t try and spin, she just did. I responded the way I did; it just is.

As a mom myself, I spun and my children reacted to my spin, it just is.

Welcome to being human.

In your human experience, you get to decide if you want to continue with the old pattern or start new and fresh.

How am I doing this? I am working with the Perfect Triangle™ program that is now available to everyone.

This program gives you tools to begin to consciously live your life and be empowered.

The first step is identifying that you spin, and not attach to it. (Don’t get upset with yourself)

How do you do that?
Feel it – Pause – Take a breath and feel your breath -Pause then:

Decide if this is how you want to be at this moment.

(Is this your subconscious reacting or do you want to become conscious and stop your spin?)

When you see what you are doing it automatically begins to slow down your spin \and you can begin to think more clearly and feel better.

Try it during your next spin.

The Perfect Triangle Program™ gives you step-by-step tools to help with life basic skills. We should have been taught these skills in elementary school and we were not.  

It is never too late to begin a life of more joy, love, confidence, and passion.  

If not now, when will you take the time to start living the life you only hoped and dreamed of?

Join the flow,

Denise